Ron – you are right
Yes, Ron, I’m giving you the title of your own post on my blog!! Dig deep and enjoy!!
I’m a girl (no, I’m not going to prove it, you’ll just have to go on faith) and we girls collect opinions on things before we make a final decision. So, with Ron’s opinion on my last post and along with some words from Wa-wa, I agree that I’m being a bit hasty.
First of all, this is not a romantic relationship. So, there’s no reason to react the way I did. Yes, he was wrong. But I overreacted (and yes, that is my MO.)
Second of all, he explained that people see the number and automatically make assumptions. And he’s right, they do. They do the same with me as soon as they know I’m a BBW. Some men like that and some don’t.
So, The Veteran and I are still friends and I will still be seeing him on the weekends, though I’ve told him that it’s just impossible for me to spend the whole weekend there anymore – I just am not getting time for me. Plus, I want to spend time with other friends on the weekend as well. So, we’ll work it out.
Well, there’s overreacting. And there’s also a sixth sense that can pick up on red flags – your “something’s not right here” alarm. I can’t tell you which force caused your reaction.
Don’t shut off your inner alarm, just because some people accuse you of overreacting. People like to judge. But we all learn from experience for a reason – so we don’t keep “touching hot stoves”.
Let’s recap: One weekend he’s broaching the idea of having you sit on TOWELS when you come over, and the next weekend you catch him lying about his age (everyone always has “good reason” to lie, so I’m not surprised he supplied you with one).
Yeah, I can see why alarm bells went off, and I think an “overreaction” by a hysterical girl had nothing to do with it. If a man listened to his gut instincts, he’d be wise and insightful. You’re doing it (you and your uterus – how dare you) and you’re overreacting.
Um, I don’t buy it.
LOL… not to play both sides of the argument, but I will agree with Drunkbunny here too. Be sure trust your instincts on things.
On the last post I wanted to make sure that you didn’t get stuck holding people to impossible standards and reacting to that the same as you would to someone that has proven that he is untrustworthy. Some people will lie about an innocent thing due to an insecurity while others will lie to decieve and cheat.
I guess where I was going is don’t treat the Veteran to a reaction that Coach deserves. With that said you actually know the Veteran and if there is more than that simple lie that caused you to react then trust yourself, after all my entire comment was based on what I got from the blog not firsthand experience.
I just don’t want you to get a kneejerk reaction to everything and end up making yourself sad. Everybody has their flaws and it is important to base your judgement of what you will decide about them on what they have done not what the last several guys have done.
Oh my, I wish I’d read these comments before I commented on the following post.
I’m more convinced than I was before that I don’t know enough about the situation to open my trap.
Pretend I just wasn’t here…
I sincerely hope this all works out for the best.
You’re all fine – and I love that I have all of you to watch my back but also that none of you are “Yes” men/women. I love that my blog allows me to meet such wonderful folks. I’ll keep you posted on everything.
Love, LG