Saucer of milk, table one – meow!!!!
I’m a bad girl. (Ron, I heard that giggle.) I’m selfish.
I really love Wondercatt. I have always told every man, she was here before you came and she’ll be here when you leave. She’s been my baby for fourteen years and I wouldn’t give her up for anything or anyone.
But, she also has never been evil to me just because she’s mad at a guy being here or anything like that. She doesn’t have that retribution bone that The Veteran’s cat appears to have. I had forgotten that after the first weekend I was there, she shat on the rug in the bedroom after I left.
So, The Veteran was telling his friend who knows a lot about cats about the way his cat was acting. And she told him that the cat was jealous of me. Nooooooooooooo, really???
So his solution is this: 1. When I come over for the weekend, we’ll put my bag and shoes into the spare bathroom and shut the door so that she doesn’t have to see/smell them. 2. Wherever I sit, we’ll put a towel, so that my scent doesn’t cling to the furniture.
I said, you know, I hear what you’re saying, I do. And I love my cat and totally understand your love of yours. But what you just said sounded like this: Come over, but don’t be yourself or leave a trace of yourself and try not to touch anything. He just kept saying, we’ll work it out.
And I feel horribly, because I was just so offended and hurt that I just was really grumpy with him, and he doesn’t need that. Even if his cat “is just a cat,” she is still part of his life and a part of his life with his late wife. I can’t ask him to ignore her feelings.
I need to be the adult and just accept things the way they are. It’s not that horrible to have to put my stuff in another room. I’ll live.
Hmmmm… how odd. I know pets can be jealous and have their own personality, but usually they come around a bit after getting used to things. I think putting things in the other room and the towel thing is sort of useless, I mean the cat isn’t stupid it will know you were there one way or another. Hope things work out for you, maybe you should bring it some tuna everytime you visit and then it will associate you with positive things.
Nooo, it’s not horrible to put your suitcase in a spare room. But if some man told me I’d have to sit on towels at his house, I’d tell him to go fuck off.
Cats get upset because they’re cats. They’ll get over it. I’m sure the cat gets upset about other things, like going to the vet. Does that mean he’s never going to take the cat to the vet? No, the cat has to suck it up because the cat is living in a human world, not the other way around.
I think you mentioned the cat was a Siamese cat. They are evil cats. In fact, working in the ER I’d see a fair share of cat bites, usually isolated injuries. But whenever someone would come in with multiple bites, or a bite accompanied by many vicious scratches, I’d ask, “Was it a Siamese cat that did this?” and every time they’d say, “How’d you know?”
In college my boyfriend’s dad had two siamese cats. One of them attacked his grandmother for no reason, and with her fragile skin, tore the skin from her arms so bad that there were some places that couldn’t even have stitches. She had to be hospitalized.
Ron – you’re right about that one.
D Bunny – that is horrible!! I had a Siamese growing up and she must have been the only good one out there.